Bruv, we going in deep with this one. This has cut hard in the many lives of The254UptownGuy, oh yeah, many lives because we are one of many. We are you. Anyway, that we’ll get into properly at a later date. For now, let’s just dwell on tackling the curse of the long term relationship without the ring. Do you sometimes feel like you’re stuck in a relationship that breeds more pain than pleasure but your mind somehow fixates itself on that little happiness over all the destruction? Yeah, huh? That’s interdependence, my guy. And you know what that’s similar to? Drug addiction. Honestly, if you’re creeping into this situation, what’s best for not only you but your partner as well is to cut the cord now. Mayday Mayday, because the plane’s going down, bruv. You need to bail out.
If you haven’t given a ring or even thought of going down on one knee after four or five years then, my guy, you probably never will. You don’t want to be with that shorty. The only reason, at this point, you’re still in it, if there’s no baby involved is the fear of the unknown. The thought of starting that whole process afresh with another can be excruciating, no doubt. And yes, they say, better the devil you know but in this case, just throw that shit out the window. Trust this. What you’re really battling with is interdependence. Truth is, you just slipped up along the way and got really comfortable and complacent without even realizing it. But don’t fret young one. We got you. We’re here to unveil that curtain. Let the third eye see, so to speak, and no, that doesn’t mean we messing with those Illuminati folks. Anyway, here’s what you ought to think about.
ARE YOU BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF
If the status quo you’re in remains completely the same for let’s say another five years, will you be happy? Are you all groovy with being in limbo without that legit commitment for more of your life? Do you even really want to settle down, get married and do the whole man and wife thing for real, especially with that person you’re with right now? These are just but a few of the hard questions you need to start asking yourself immediately because life is short. Answering these questions will give you a little direction on how to approach your partner and what you really need to start thinking and talking about.
CLARIFY IF IT’S GOING TO BE A LIVING ARRANGEMENT TYPE THING
Yes, we know the stories, it just happened like that. We just found we started living together. It was never really planned for. It started with a toothbrush, a bag and now she has her own parking space. And the list goes on and on, catch the drift? Now, what you need to do is to start deciding if that’s going to be it. Because now with no presumption of marriage, don’t be rough on her, let both she and yourself sort those finances and shit early, and properly. Clearly knowing what’s what will allow you guys to lead happier lives.
ASSES THE PROBABLE FUTURE
Marriage, to say the least, is somewhat of an inexact science. It’s something you can’t really predict. However, there are some ways you can tell and assess how good your future might be with your current partner. If she’s not a humorous chick and that’s a trait you see the person you’ll probably spend the rest of your life with having, then know that there’s no amount of Kevin Hart movies or standups that will magically change the person you’re currently with. The moment you start feeling like your forcing things, then sadly, there’s no future. Or rather a happy one at least.
Getting stuck in a rut is totally a real thing and most often than not a very depressing one when in the relationship realm. Don’t get caught up in the curse of the long term relationship without the ring. Break free! Because, bruv, life is just too short and you deserve better. You owe it to yourself.